The importance of building other women up (and scones)

women empower, girls compete

by Jess from Nerdy Dirty Flirty 30


As a long term fan of Raychael’s work and collaborative nature, I jumped at her offer to join her for high tea and a mini blog audit. What I thought would be a nice chance to meet my first blogger in real life (yes, it’s taken me 9 months) and eat some scones, turned out to be a 4hr chat-a-thon about all things blogging, career, inspiration, and life.



To be honest, I spent so much time engaged in our conversation that I was a terrible blogger and took only a few poorly-lit photos. Ah well, life over work, am I right?


We visited the impressively entranced Duxton Hotel for a traditional High Tea, complete with sparkling wine, scones, mini sandwiches, macaroons, a selection of desserts, and of course, tea. I am typically a savoury gal, and this High Tea was no exception, with the scones, chicken and cajun aioli sandwich, and baked egg florentine tartlet being my favourites.


With full bellies already, we had to at least taste each of the sweets, and the macaroons and rich salted caramel slice were gorgeous. Some of the dishes were too dry for my liking, although this could have been due to the fact that our talking left the food sitting there for a while! A more traditional take on the High Tea, I would be keen to go back to the Duxton and experience it again.


But back to the more important things (more important than salted caramel, are you insane?). The main theme we kept coming back to was the importance of building other women up instead of tearing them down. There seems to be this belief that one women’s success equals another woman’s failure. Comparison is the thief of joy people, and it gets you no where.


While I have been lucky enough in the blogging world to have avoided trolls and mean girls, not everyone can say the same. I have definitely experienced my share of bitchy teens (I’m talking to you popular girl in high school who used to tease me for my uneven teeth), and women who take your assertive and passionate nature as an opportunity to criticise and take you down a notch.


women empower, girls compete

The whole damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don’t mentality of society is so exhausting. The teenage girls who are sexting because they think they should, the 20-something woman who is working 70hr weeks to compare with her male counterparts, the first time mum who is getting hate for not breastfeeding/breastfeeding for too long/going back to work/not going back to work.


Just stop. Girls compete with each other. Women empower one another.


So let’s all try to be grown up women, and celebrate each others choices, successes and dreams. Collaboration is the way forward and there is no limited amount of success in the world. Everyone can have their share…unless we are talking about salted caramel, then the gloves are off!


Jess (Nerdy Dirty Flirty 30)


High Tea Review

Jess was our 2014 Worth Casing Blog award winner. You can read more about Jess and her blogging journey here.

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