I must confess, I was rather productive on the blog merge and home organisational front during my social media free week. It’s surprising how much you can actually achieve when you don’t have online distractions.
I managed to tick a number of items off my extensive spring cleaning list but what I didn’t manage to tackle, possibly because I’m like an emu with my head in the sand here, was my once again full to overflowing rather chaotic wardrobe. I’ve had a number of attempts at tackling the problem in the last few months and it’s only now that I’ve had time to read and digest Nikki Parkinson from Styling You‘s new book Unlock Your Style that I’m beginning to see the error of my wardrobe ways.
My Wardrobe Woes
There are a number of contributing factors (let’s keep it real and call them excuses) that have been standing in my way.
Changing Shape: Weight and shape change due to health issues over the past year. New meds will supposedly sort this out but it’s going to take time. No one can put a definitive figure on this but anywhere from six weeks to six months if I’m lucky.
Age Factor: I’m not getting any younger (shock horror) and I’m possibly holding on to a lot of style that was best left in my 20s and 30s. Now that I find myself in my 40s (not sure how that happened) I’m not convinced or confident when it comes to my style possibly due to first point (see above) but I could also be in old age denial here.
Budget: Even if my budget wasn’t super tight at the moment, I don’t want to outlay money in the clothing department and risk adding to the chaos. As soon as my health and weight start to improve, I would like to shop from my own hardly worn, mostly designer wardrobe first.
Timeless: My love for quirky, vintage and timeless pieces hasn’t changed. It’s a perfect way to ensure I never arrive at an event in the same outfit as someone else. For one reason or another, I struggle to throw out these pieces and there are so many of them now. How do you know when it’s time to let go and how do you decide what’s worth keeping?
Sentimental: You know the pieces I’m talking about here. While the semi formal blue cocktail dress I was wearing when Mr C first asked me out is no longer in my collection, it’s only recently departed and due to water damage after a severe storm caused roof damage which in turn leaked into one area of my storage wardrobe. Sob.
Organised Chaos: For the most part and thanks to a few OCD tendencies my wardrobe is fairly organised. Even though it is very much bursting at the seams, there is a place for everything and everything is generally in its place and easy to find but this doesn’t equate to being functional or wearable. Does it?
Over the last few months, armed with Unlock Your Style, I’ve been easing myself into the ‘Great Wardrobe Cull of 2014’. Although, I’m beginning to think I need an intervention and/or some professional help here and I’m not talking about a stylist. I honestly need to accept my size and shape (unlike my age) isn’t changing soon and adjust my wardrobe accordingly. I possibly could do with some time on the couch.
Like most people, I’m only wearing around 10% of what is currently in my wardrobe and possibly 60% of the rest is questionable. I have far too many, I have nothing to wear moments. As summer approaches, my ability to camouflage and cover all my faults is becoming mission impossible and unless I want to spend another summer on the sidelines or in hibernation mode, I need to move faster than fast.
Funnily enough, I’m looking to my father and father-in-law here for motivation. They both have ‘sheds’ that are bursting at the seams with a huge collection of ‘stuff’ that “may come in handy one day”. Stuff that they not only struggle to part with but organise because there is so much of the stuff. Stuff that when needed, is too hard to find amongst the chaos or forgotten about over time, so they end up heading out and purchasing something new.
Tackling the issue
With Nikki from Styling You arriving in Perth at the end of the month, I’m determined to tackle my wardrobe issues once and for all. Starting with revamping Should it Stay or Should it GO NOW?!
Each week, either here or via Instagram, I will share some of the more questionable items from my wardrobe and have my stylish and not afraid to speak the truth friends (that means YOU!!) help me decide on what should stay and what should definitely GO NOW!
This week, I’m sharing the most questionable item of all………..
MY WEDDING DRESS!!
Which was actually my engagement party dress, as we threw an engagement party on the beach and surprised everyone by getting married. For almost 20 years, this dress has been hanging in my wardrobe. It comes out occasionally for dry-cleaning and airing but for the most part doesn’t get a second glance.
I have far too many questions when it comes to wedding dresses, clearly I’ve kept mine for sentimental reasons but honestly I’m never ever going to wear this dress again, I only just squeeze into and let’s be frank, it’s from the 90s, it’s pale magenta (please no talk of pink) and it’s taking up valuable wardrobe space, not to mention the time and money it costs to keep it pristine. More money than the dress originally cost ($300) because it was many moons ago and it wasn’t an official wedding dress that came with a huge price tag to start with.
I’m reminded of a friend who held on to her $5k dress, even after her hubby of 20ish years ran off with someone. It was very much a Princess Di number and this dress, neatly boxed, followed her round the country in the hope of passing it on to one of her daughters. Daughters who were years off getting married and not keen on the dress, the fabric or the reminders of a marriage that had disintegrated in front of their eyes and the painful divorce that followed.
Even after 30 years, when my friend’s cats decided to mark their territory by ripping a lot of the fabric and leaving an interesting signature scent, the dress remains in her possession. I ask YOU why? Not to shame anyone, more in the hope that your answer will help me solve my own issues here.
When you say ‘I do’ surely you’re saying YES to a life long partnership? Does that really need to include the dress as well?
Now, I suppose we should move on to wedding bouquets. I literally threw mine away, although not traditionally at the wedding like most people do. I kept the gorgeous floral bouquet in a vase at home and it was pretty much cactus when we arrived home from our super short honeymoon ten days later.
If I had my wedding day over again, I would opt for a Tamara Harrison Design bridal bouquet. A custom design piece that screams me, something that incorporates the vintage jewellery I’ve inherited over the years and would in turn look perfect on display in a vase on my mantel piece. I’m not entirely sure how I would approach the dress selection side of things if I had a do over.
NOW, do tell…… When it comes to my wedding dress….. Should it Stay or Should it Go NOW?! Do you still have your wedding dress and how long have you been married?
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